Friday, January 9, 2009

the big fat weddings...

somehow i don't like the funda of the big fat weddings..i think it is a ridiculous business for in it nobody enjoys..the family is tensed coz of the preparations and hoping and praying that everything goes well, that no relative is annoyed and all the formalities are completed and everyone goes back home pleased. the bride n the groom are sitting like idols and dnt have a clue of whats happening and desperately waiting for it to be over, the video camera can go off, the relatives can go off and they can get back into some comfortable clothings and some alone time!

the people invited come due to variuos reasons. they are the only ones who feel a little relaxed after justling through office n traffic to attend the wedding. besides this, it is a sheer waste of money. i see no point spending lakhs on decorations n food n clothes u won't wear a second time in ur life.....
i may be sounding too complaining abt all this wedding business. my mom says if we don't celebrate such occasions then what will we as a society celebrate...there will be no celebrations if everyone thinks like me!! but i don't see the point why the whole world needs to be invited to your wedding n half of the people u dnt even know or are so long lost that u fail to recognise them! if u really want a celebration u can always do it with your close family n friends who matter to u....ahh...wish someone could convince me about this shadi business...

me n some of my friends have always felt this way..now its time my peers have started getting married.i too might have this day coming soon for me.... now they have been against this big fat wedding n dowry stuff. but to my surprise they are following the same with huge grand celebrations n lotsa dowry...opps..gifts!! and they did not give much resentment saying they don't want to go against their parents coz they in turn are answerable to the society, no guy would like to go in for a court marriage and there's a difference between dreams and reality....

now m i too strong headed to not understand this society issue or m i thinking in an unrealistic world??i guess my mom n dad are going to have a tough time with me...

somebody please explain this to me......

6 comments:

Shayari said...

Hmmm agreed that, weddings are over the top, blown up and goes the big fat way here. But don't you feel once in a lifetime events are meant to be celebrated in a Hatke style??:)

And rahi baat Dowri ki.. Ya, it's sad to see educated men demanding the same:(

Jackfruit said...

I should agree. I prefer to elope :D

state of mind? said...

shayari- there are loads of worhty options to celebrate the big day in a zara hatke style!!!get innovative man.

Jackfruit- to elope u wud hav to love without woorying abt the psychology n science of it!!! jsut trust it as afeeling n do it :P

verbivorehere said...

lol if u ask ths generation..everyone is going to approve ur thoughts n the matter. If im right almost all do it for the wish of ur parents!

dharmabum said...

finally, someone who agrees. i have always felt this way. i mean, i wud have wanted it to be a private, and very small affair...somehow everytime i talk to friends about it, they say i am mad.

state of mind? said...

dharmabum- well,all great minds in this world have been labelled as mad or insane!! so take it as a compliment...lol

most my folks do have the same thoughts as echoed by urs...dnt know about u but I just hope I can do it my way on my big day!!
fingers crossed!:P

verbivorehere-its not that simple.
whenever there is a difference of opinion with our parents we always reason it out with them n try to convince them unless they are the authoritarian kinds. we don't always follow their wishes if we ourselves arn't convinced abt it.

here too the case is the same. those who do it do so coz they are scared/apprehensive of doing something that the society doesnt approve of.